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Ms. Salvatore-Calcedonia 
I'm 16 and I need some friends, and I'm having an extremely hard time making them.? I
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   Hello everyone!


 Okay, here's the deal, I'm a 16 year old girl, and I live in Lower Manhattan, NYC.


 I'm originally from Sicily, I moved to NYC, when I was 10.
 When I first moved here, I didn't speak any English, and the first person I met was my best friend Meyer.
 He speaks Italian, and is the one who had the most part in helping me learn English.
 And ever since, I've not been away from him for more than 2 weeks at the most.


 In July, him and his parents are going to go to Miami, Fl, and stay with some of their family until Summer next year.


 Since I'm so close to Meyer, I really don't have anymore of what you would call "friends."
 I know a couple kids from school who we sometimes play cards with, but other then that, I never hang out with them.


 Since Meyer is going to be away for so long, I was wondering if someone could give me some good advice on how I could make some more friends.


 I have tried before making friends, but I've had no luck.
 I've went out to places, I've even tried the Boys and Girls club.


 I am a very personable person, I'll talk to anyone about anything really.


 One prime example of me not being able to make friends is:


 I went to a Boys and girls club, and the first day I went, I introduced my self, and the whole 4 hours I was there, I sat at a table by myself.
 The third day I went to the club, some kids my age were sitting around at a table talking, I asked it I could have a seat.


 They were talking, and when I had something to say about the topic, I would say it, but I wouldn't interrupt anyone of course, I would throw in my two cents, they would look at me and then just go on like I wasn't even there.
 It's almost like they avoid me.


 They asked me what kind of cell phone I had, I told them what I had, but that I really don't care for cell phones all that much.
 When I said that, everyone actually said "oh god, that's like, so weird! How can you not like cell phones!?"


 I'm open to a lot of ideas and things.
 It's not like I have a mindset on what like only. I love to try what other people like and talk about it.


 I'm not a typical teenager at all.
 I like golf, cards, old B&W/silent movies, swing and jazz music, I speak 6 languages, English being my 4th.
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 I wear dress clothes instead of Tees and jeans.
 It's like I can't relate to anyone else my age.


 To me, all I ever seen most any teenager doing is having their cell phone stuck in front of their face or in their ear.


 I often find that I get along with people 20 years and older than I am.


 So, is there anywhere in New York City, where I might find some friends my age? Or how could I make some friends? Like I said, I try to talk to any about anything, and learn about different things.


 So any advice is greatly appreciated.
 Thanks! 


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 Best Answer:   That's good that you ar trying, and wow... 6 languages!
 When i meet someone I like to tell them a little bit about me. I just basically say "hi, my name is A***** and i love to play sports". For you, you are so much more interesting! you can say "Hi, my name is ____ and i am from Sicily and i speak 6 different languages" then you could ask them if they want to playa game of cards(if you are near a table or inside the B&G club).
 If i heard all of that from you, i would LOVE to know more about you. I would never ignore or avoid anyone, and if someone does that to you, do not try too hard to become their friend. GOOD LUCK.
 If i lived where you did, i would not mind being your friend. some people are just crazy. lol :) 


PeAcE. LoVe. VoLLeYbALL




 Try a youth group in a church. Do you have any churches near you? The bigger churches are more likely to have bigger youth groups too, so I hope this works out for you! God bless you!


 Marcia 




 you could try volunteering at a shelter (animal or people) or food bank. it will help you to meet people from all walks of life and it will look good on your resume when you look for a job. maybe you could go to a jazz concert or drama performance at one of the local colleges? there are people of your maturity level and there is no alcohol.


colleges? there are people of your maturity level and there is no alcohol.


Khadiji



Maybe try youth groups? My sister's friend suggested churches.


Astrid